Shoud I care about the opinions of others when it comes to parenting?

I am new to the mother world and as a young mother I have a lot of people trying to put their two cents in. I recently got my 6 month old daughters ears pierced and I have had some of the rudest comments about what doing it. I work and have a good job. It wasn't like i was sticking my neck out to do it. I also take good care of her ears such as cleaning them and doing what the lady told me. I also take care of my daughter on my own. Was I wrong to have gotten her ears pierced? Should I worry about the negative remarks from others?Shoud I care about the opinions of others when it comes to parenting?
Unless you ask for someone's opinion, their comments should be put in the same place you put junk mail--in the round file. It is unfortunate that people in today's world seem to think they can make all sorts of remarks and comments about what other people wear, what they weigh, how their raising their children, etc.--but bottom line, it is rude--period--to make any sort of comment about or to advise someone without being asked.





If someone is rude enough to remark negatively about your daughter's ears being pierced, all you need say is simply this--';thank you for your concern';--and either change the subject or walk away. Don't try to explain or argue--just refuse to discuss it. It is none of their business unless YOU choose to make it so.





You don't owe anyone an explanation for your decisions concerning your child's treatment, unless you are being accused by someone in an official capacity of doing something wrong. Anyone else is out of order.Shoud I care about the opinions of others when it comes to parenting?
Heck no. You do what you do never mind what other people tell you. They wanna put they cents in tell them to start paying child support, since they wanna play like they the parent. Your baby you do whatever. Sometimes advice is good but go by your own judgement.
You do what think is best for your family...don't worry what other people think...what is right for one family, isn't necessarily right for every family.
Some just need to mind their own business!


I'm also a new mom and where I live your kid has to be at least 2 months old to have their ears pierced... well guess what, I had her ears pierced at about 2 1/2 months! They say the younger they are the better.


You as a mother will know what is best for your child, go with your gut instinct and you will do just fine.





Welcome to motherhood! Pick and choose what advice you want to take in %26amp; what to leave out.
no, I always take the advice I like and ignore the rest. Some people can't help but being rude and just because it is their opinion doesn't mean they are right. Go with what you feel is right, she is your daughter and you know her better than them.
I don't think that there is anything wrong with trading tips and taking advice from other parents and friends. The problem comes when they are butting into private matters, acting holier-than-thou about something or simply getting involved without your consent. I personally find nothing wrong with getting the ear piercings. As for the original questions-- if you find that you are uncomfortable with the advice, simply tell them that you appreciate it but you disagree. But don't always ignore people, as they may have something valuable to contribute or you may gain new insight as well.
'You need to build up a tough skin now. Even if you were with the father, stayed home all day, there would be something someone would tell you to do differently. My kids are 6 and 8 and I really wish I had learned to let it roll of sooner. Since I am now able to let it go, or simply state, that is really none of your concern, or I don't remember asking for advice on that, I feel sooo much better.


Go with your instinct, mine has not let me down yet when it comes to my kids. And know in your heart you are a great mom, because if its not piercing the ears, it will be another reason, people are so judgmental and need to worry about themselves instead of everyone else and everyone else's kids.
Sometimes it's nice to have others opinions and thoughts about things. however, when they are comments like this, just talk them all with a grain of salt. Just care about the poets that you ask for.....





Good Luck


Momma P
Being a parent seems to be open season on everyone giving their opinions. You have to wade through it, just like everything else. It is a learning experience. You can just nicely listen to what they have to say, then thank them and forget it, unless it is something you find useful. You know what's best for you and your child. Many parent's pierce a young child's ears, and it is certainly not abuse. I wouldn't worry about it, just take care of you and her!
I heard it was better to get them done early. I think sometimes you need to listen to other parents because you never know if they have ways of doing things that work better for you. It doesn't hurt to take in consideration advice if it will make you a better person. Sometimes though you just need to do what you think is best and i think this is one of those times.
Everyone has an opinion but most don't know that you don't have to share any chance you get. It is good to keep your mind open to different ways to parent but this earring issue is a personal preference. I wouldn't worry about those that disagree with your decision.
no i don't think you were wrong. if she doesn't like it when she gets older, then she can just let the holes close up! i am terrified of needles, and so scared to actually get my ears pierced. (but i really want to wear earings!!) i really wish my mom would have taken me to get mine pierced when i was a baby. babies wont hold anything against you for doing that. don't worry about what people tell you, you can make your own decisions. good luck raising your daughter! : )
I too had my daughters ears pierced when she was 5 months old. Nothing wrong with it.





When you have a young child everyone has an opinion and wants to share it. They don't always mean to be rude. It does get better as the children get older. Just smile and go on with your day. What they say and think does not matter. You don't know them and will never see them again (hopefully).





Want real advice ask your family and friends. They are the ones who matter.
I was a young mother once. NO you should not pay heed to other people opinion when it comes to raising your daughter. You need to impart your values and beliefs to her not some watered down version of it. If you want a strong daughter then what better way to teach her than standing up for what you believe?
People always feel the need to tell you what is best- how they did it. Pregnancy should of toughened you up-all the unwanted advice you receive! All you can do is your best- with the best of intentions. Only follow advice from those closest to you. (and mine) good luck