Why do most parents quit parenting their children the instant they turn 18?

All I have heard since my daughter turned 18 (still living at home, going to college, and working) is that ';she is 18, she can do what she wants to! Hello! Most young adults get into their first bit of troulble between 18-23! Why does it seem wrong for me to still ';guide'; her in the right direction? I did not quit being her mother the instant she turned 18! I do think that this is a common issue...young adults, still need to be guided and kept on the straight and narrow path.Why do most parents quit parenting their children the instant they turn 18?
You're right, it's a common issue. That's why I sat both of my kids down months before their 18th birthdays and made it clear that, regardless of their age, their dad and I set the rules in our home. We also had specific agreements they had to make about their behavior at college if we were to foot the bill.





Tell your daughter that, as long as you're caring for her and responsible for her, she'll have to do it your way. Don't continue to argue.Why do most parents quit parenting their children the instant they turn 18?
well in a way u ARE very very correct, we youngsters encounter most of the problems between 18-23 when the world is new to us, and we want to try every taste of life, want to be a part of every adventure.The excitement of being an adult misguides us a little, but tell you what its the age...it will pass away...





Parents need to be there for their children guiding them, but the real problem comes when, they dont trust their children at all, after all we HAVE successfully learnt to ride the bicycle, havent we??





guide us, protect us, advice us, but please dont bicker at evry single step we take,that hurts us, that is what takes us away from the parents.





Parents really need to show some patience with their children falling in ';kidult'; age group...patience is the key madam :D....
It's never wrong of you, as a parent, to guide your child.





If you were controlling or smothering, that would be one thing, but guiding is perfectly fine.





I am 31 years old, have lived on my own and supported myself since I was 20, and my parents STILL guide me if I ask for it. . .but when I lived at home, they would give me advice all the time.





You are a good parent as long as your aren't overbearing or controlling.
I am a mother of an 18 year old daughter and she also has


informed me that she is an adult. I tell her not yet. I just


change the way I voice concerns now. Instead of telling her


what she can and can't do I suggest options. I have to hold


my tongue sometimes and let her learn from her choices.


It isn't easy. She has told me I seem to have letting go issues. She's right but I am learning to let go. Take a look at how you speak to her. If you are still issuing ';orders';


you may want to reconsider how you say it.
It depends on the parents and their children. Parenting does not mean policing . It is to guide them to choose the right path with least reversals. This should be made clear to the children and after 18 , just guide them on ' Take it or leave it ' condition . I know couple of parents who still guide their married sons and daughters. And the result is astonishingly good.
fluffy you are still being a good mother,even though our little babies grow up,they still need us whether they want to admit it or not.that is a mothers love and that love will never change,i am going to be 49 sept.26 and my mom still treAts me like a baby,i get irratated with her sometimes but i dont say anything to hurt her she is just doing he job god intended for her to do,keep up the good work and with a litle luck you maqy have graqndchildren upon whom you can pour out your special love upon them.keep up the good work and god blees you!
Turning 18 changed nothing about my relationship with my parents. They are still totally my parents and I have rules and this and that. I am still like a little kid and don't really think of myself as an adult. I know if I had to move out tomorrow I'd be in a lot of trouble and lost as can be. Turning 18 doesn't actually make you more grown up at all, we're still kids really. So guiding your kids is good. :)
I just turned 18 and my parents are trying 2 keep control over me....trust me it doesn't work. There comes a time when u just need 2 let go and trust that what u taught them will stick in their heads and they'll be fine. U can't control them forever. If u try to then they will want little 2 do with you...
i agree, im 15 years old and i know in 3 years im still gonna need my parents. my cousin is 20 years old and still isnt allowed to go out late unless she asks her mom. just cause youre 18 doesnt mean youre an adult just cause the LAW says so. lets face it, were all gonna need our mommys at 18!
I'm in agreement with you. I got married at 18 to an older man I though was so great. Now I'm a 31 yo divorcee with 3 daughters of my own back living with my mom! As my girls grow up I'm going to keep on guiding and advising them until I die.
i think the same. most parents either dont want their children to leave so they continue on parenting or they cant wait for their kids to leave.
BLACKBIRD i pity your children....