Why do people seem to put down black men parenting skills?

Like people will say (online) that they don't make great fathers ect. But I see in the public that there playing with their kids and having fun. Where did this myth come from? That there never around and stuff?Why do people seem to put down black men parenting skills?
Statistics. They look at statistics and some of the causes, but ignore others.





The system is designed in such a way that Blacks will always be scrutinized for what they fail to accomplish, and not given credit for what they do. Yes, there are instances where they throw the dog a bone, but most non-Blacks don't respect us and never will. It has more to do with looks than anything else. Attractive people get more respect, and lord knows that Black is far from attractive in the eyes of the majority.





Oh, and my mother and father married and stayed together. I am appreciative of this fact, and glad that I had a father in my formative years. It is because of this that although I like to get laid and have fun like any other man my age, I'd never cheat and I'd never have a child out of wedlock or abandon any family that I create.Why do people seem to put down black men parenting skills?
I like you, you question things.





This belief that ';black men are bad fathers'; is yet another stereotype propagated in our society. Stereotypes don't necessarily come from anywhere specifically but they always act to suppress the power of a minority group. You've observed it yourself: lot's of black men are great fathers! Goes to show that this, like other racist, sexist, ageist stereotypes, is wrong. Stereotypes are often said as jokes, but I feel that they created in a place of hate and fear.





next, take a look at the violent portrayals we always see of black men on tv. it's wack.
I work in human services (in a predominantly white state) and most of the time the kids do not have fathers in the picture. There is one family I had worked with for 3 years. (long story short) The mother was white the father was black and I supported the state in denying the mother any contact with the children, and giving full custody to the father. He was a great man and had been dealt a real shytty hand in life. Not that he was the best father in the world but he did everthing he thought he should and could do for them. He was unable to keep them safe from their mother without our help; and yet once she was gone he and the kids thrived in comparison to when she was there. He raised those 3 high needs kids on his own from there on out. With a little help on the side from us but there was no open child protective case, he came and asked us for the help. That is a huge sing that a black man is no less of a father than any parent.
I agree with songstress.





I think this is said because of the statistics of black fathers not being in their kids lives. Many black children are raised by single mothers and many of the black fathers are out of the picture, they don't provide financial or emotional support for their kids.





Of course this isn't true for all black men. For me personally my father has always been in my life, I grew up with my father living in the same household as me and married to my mother. Unfortunately many black children here in the U.S. don't have that luxury.
allow me to give you the real answer.





you see, there are ALOT of people in this word.7 billion in fact around 60 million in the uk and the us is around 300 million at the mo.





even if a small % of a population are behaving a certain way, then that will still be a heck of a lot of people! this is why these stereotypes come about. there are taken from truths, but then applied to the whole of that group, which is when it becomes ridiculous.





there are a lot of bad black father's just as there are many great ones. infact, they are usually bad fathers because they are not around rather than abuse or sexual abuse etc...





my father was great and hardworking and honest.





im not pc but im sorry, after watching jeremy kyle i can say exactly the same thing about white men too.





edit: dog lover- you really need to get off your high horse because every view u seem to have is always so negative about blacks with no proof. how the hell can you make such a stupid a$$ statement about black parenting when you most def. havent lived with a black family in your lifetime. i'm sure you wouldnt make such a generalising statement about white families. and here ladies and gentlemen is how we got the stereotype that asians worship white people. ur superiority complex is quite comical.





edit: why don't you work on your own education (and grammar) and leave black issues alone because they do not concern you. the last thing black people need are you and your assumptions. i am very clear minded and am not automatically defensive about anything, but the comment and many of the comments you frequently make are out of turn. what worries me is that silly people like you will influence people in real life with your own prejudices which is part of the reason why racism remains so strong today. there is a strong asian community in the part of london where i live and many chinese and viet men waste all their hardworking wive's money in gambling shops. we see them all the time hanging outside these places, smoking cigarettes like there is no tomorrow and never doing any work. YET, i will not make a sweeping generalisations about chinese people because i am too intelligent and decent for that.
Exactly. Sure, there are SOME crappy black fathers, some crappy white fathers, etc, etc. My cousin's father is black and he's still around. I don't see the family much because they live out of state but I have yet to hear of any serious problems. And my black friend, Morgan, her parents are divorced but her dad is pretty nice to her and she sees him sometimes.
because black dad srun out on their children more then any other race, look it if you dont believe me.


heres a little joke me and my friends say.





whats the difference between a black guy and a couch?


a couch can support a family of 4


whats the difference between a pizza and a back guy?


a pizza can feed a family of 4


whats the most confusing day in compton?


fathers day








now tell me people dont just make random jokes about somethin if their not true
Because people can't seem to put aside race and just look at a person for who they are and not their color. It's just racist people fasley accusing another race they don't like. There are terrible fathers within every race! People need to stop being so ridiculous.
I don't know where it came from because it definitely isnt only black men that leave their kids alot of men from different nationalities do too. But my dad raised me
Some are great fathers, but people say that because over 70% of black kids (US and UK) are raised by their mothers only. And most likely never met their father. Fatherless kids aren't just in the ghetto. Look at Eddie Murphy's situation for example.
I'm not sure how the myth came about. I do know that it's false. My father was a terrific parent and my grandfathers before him were good fathers as well.
Steriotype. A bad one.





EDIT- I'll have you know my dad is raising me perfectly. So YES it IS a steriotype.
Because they see a few black children with no father and assume all black children have o father. My daddy is awesome.
becasue they dont actually know any black people....





so they regurgitate what they see on tv...sad really
IDK, but I know for a fact that it's false!
It is called lack of knowledge.
my dad works very hard to take care of me and his family and im black
uuummm...go watch some interracial porn and you tell me.
Well let me ask you this?





How many baby daddies are out there that don't take care of thier kids? There's a little truth to every stereotype.