What should be provided to the non-custodial parent during their parenting time?

My ex says that I should be providing diapers and clothes for our daughter during his weekends. (He even tried to say food... haha) I provide the clothing with no issues, but diapers I have a problem with. I don't feel as though this is right and I can't seem to find an answer anywhere... any help is appreciated!What should be provided to the non-custodial parent during their parenting time?
The courts will never tell you that have to or don't have to provide these items. To be honest, HE is responsible for those items. It really isn't that much...





I gave my ex a diaper bag with 10 diapers, a pack of wipes, a receiving blankets, 2 onesies, 2 burp clothes, 3 bibs, 2 spoons, 2 bottles (with measured formula), and a 2 pack of baby food. I told him that the bag and everything in it was his to use for our daughter. He keeps the bag and supplies, but when its empty he needs to replace it. He shut up for a little while until he determined that he would need a stroller and told me that I should be buying that for him with the ';fat check'; I get every month.





I am waiting for the next time he says something because I have had a spreadsheet made out that shows my expenses for our daughter on a monthly basis showing that not only do I spend %26gt;$200 more a month than the court says MY obligation is but that I spend more than twice what HE gives in support.





Ultimately, it isn't about money, its about providing for our daughter. I tell him to get an adjustment if he thinks support is too high but he prefers to attack me instead. If I wanted to be spiteful I guess I might be able to show the courts that I spend way more than my 48% portion of her expenses but that isn't what matters to me!!!





Don't let it bother you and if you want to be nice then do something like what I did. He hasn't complained about diapers, bottles or formula since that day... (Just the big ticket items).





Good Luck and Keep Trucking Lady!!!What should be provided to the non-custodial parent during their parenting time?
It should have been addressed in the final order, it should say something like ';each parent agrees to provide a home for the child while they are in their custody. each parent agrees to send the child with any school work or other activities that need to be completed during the other parents time. Each parent is required to provide current medical information and medical supplies.';





If your stuff doesn't say that, well that sucks. But theoretically he has said that he wants visitation with the child, and if his home is not adequate then you have a really good case on why he shouldn't have visitation. If your child is on breast milk then you are required to supply that as food, because that is a health matter. However, clothes, food, toiletries, diapers, having running water, electricity, car seat...etc. That is part of having a home for the child and you shouldn't have to supply ANY of it. if he is incapable of providing a home then he doesn't need to have visitation.
There was a previous question by a young woman who wanted to know why a man wouldn't want to marry his girlfriend. I think this question and a number of the responses explains it. In many cases the wife receives child support AND spousal support. You are arguing over diapers. He doesn't go to the store to buy diapers on a regular basis. (Remember, YOU are the custodial parent). He made the mistake of becoming involved with you and he really made the mistake of having a child with you, so I imagine he will have to suffer the consequences. If I were him I would just make sure that I had a supply of clothing and diapers for the child, because he certainly isn't going to get any help from you. I wish I could warn him that no matter what he does, it won't be enough. I wonder how long it will be before you seek additional child support?
No way you should be responsible. He is a parent too, and while his child is in his [temporary] custody, he is responsible for taking care of that child. Like you said with the food, he could take that in any direction if this were true...oh he made a poopy, YOU need to come over and change it, ya right lol.








It should be common sense and/or courtesy. He needs to think of it this way because this is key...he thinks that his behavior is directed toward you (i.e. not helping/buying diapers etc.) but this is falling on his child, he needs to see how little this makes it appear that he cares about his child.
Clothing is suppose to be part of child support so I would say clothing would be included in that, coat, shoes etc since he only has her every other week-end and clothes grow out so quickly . . .but the diapers? I would put one in the diaper bag in case an accident or he had to go somewhere and the rest is up to him.
Is he a parent or a babysitter? If he wants to parent, he has to act like a parent. That means providing what the child needs... You are not responsible for supplying consumables (diapers and food). Send clothing, but let Dad take care of the things Dad is responsible for during his time.
lol, this was funnnnnnyy! Men. He is being selfish,lazy and CHEAP!!!!





Tell him to supply his house with what his daughter will need for the time she will be there.End of story. And if you take him to court the judge will point to him as a prime example of a dead beat daddio! that is just disgusting
LOL. I hope you don't ever wonder why he's your ex.





you have to provide the kid and any medicines the kid has. a change of clothes %26amp; a favorite toy would be nice but eveything else is on him.





tell him that's the price of being a parent.
The non custodial parent should have diapers, formula, toys and clothing for the child/ren.


Make sure you send any medicines that are taken and make sure your ex informed of any illnesses or allergies.
I have a question for you if you would answer mine??? How did you become the custodial parent in your divorce?http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ah6XIKvm7bEEkuGxqj5cx_oazKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20090824093746AAePm2g And yeah he's in need of parenting lessons.
He should be providing whatever your daughter needs during his time with her. Other than clothing, it's not up to you to supply his home with items. Good luck dealing with this guy!