Is parenting more of a responsibility and work or a joy for you?

How did you feel before deciding to be a parent?Is parenting more of a responsibility and work or a joy for you?
It's more like a job that you love so much you even want to go at weekends!Is parenting more of a responsibility and work or a joy for you?
It's both. Its big responsibility and alot of work but you cant help but be amazed at this beautiful little creature you created and loves you unconditionally for all your faults and insecirities. watching them explore and learn and come into their own is really beautiful. I knew i wanted children but im young and I knew i wasnt ready for children yet and kinda i never wanted to be bothered with other people children i just felt really uncomfortable and i wondered about how i would feel towards my own. When I got pregnant with my daughter its was a complete surprise and unplanned but i had a termination a year before and i couldnt go threw with that again or ever so the moment i found out i was pregnant i vowed to to whatever it takes to make my childs life wondering and full of happiness. and i love watching her learn and grow and teaching her. you will be surprise how fast you grow up and change when it comes to becoming a parent. My personal opinion giving birth to my daughter work or not is the greatest thing i ever did and i cant wait to have more.
I don't know how I felt before, I got thrown into being a parent (Me and my husband adopted, sudden situation) I guess I didn't know what I was getting myself into. It didn't take long to realize it came very naturally and was a joy. You want to do the extra work to make life perfect for your child, not just the basic's or necessities, everything you can do. Sure, when I am sick or just plain tired it feels like work, being a parent is hard work, don't get me wrong. But it's worth it, and I know everyone say's that, but it really is true and you can't really understand until you have a child. There is no feeling like rocking a baby to sleep or seeing them smile at you. Pure joy.
I knew parenting would be all of these. It is a responsibility, it is work, and it is joy. I have a 6 year old step-daughter and a 6 month old baby girl. Honestly, for me, parenting is more joy. Yes, there is work, but because it is for my kids, I don't mind. The hard part right now is getting my six year old to mind, and my baby is teething and it feels like there's not much I can do for her to make her feel better.
Biologically, humans are designed to want sex (not necessarily want children). Prior to the development of contraception, it didn't really matter in the greater scheme from natures stand-point. Sex would produce chemicals in men %26amp; women to form intimacy / attachment / long term bonding and the same chemicals released also happens during pregnancy (in other words, nature rewards you for having a kid by making you love it..parental instinct).





With humans developing contraceptives and children becoming a ';choice';, well for a time it was society %26amp; religion ';encouraged'; people to chose having children. Slowly though people in Western Nations, particularly educated %26amp; wealthy Nations, are having far less children (or opting for no kids). That's the kicker ';nature'; didn't plan for the human species..it didn't necessarily create a ';desire'; for children..just the desire to have sex.





Personally, I don't have the desire to want to raise a child. Some people do and more power to them. I just can't fathom ';opting'; to have kids when you have a choice in the matter. I don't want to say I would never 'love' my child if an ';accident'; happened but just saying ';hey honey, lets have a baby';..I don't see it.





Seriously, get a ';puppy'; and deal with that. A single puppy by itself can DRAMATICALLY affect your life (and freedom)..a child is FAR worse when it comes to responsibility / work.
It is a total joy... not that it's never challenging at all, but it's just so rewarding and fun. The benefits outweigh the challenges. Before becoming a parent, I thought there'd be lots of crying and dirty diapers. The fun and cuddles and rewarding, exciting moments far outweigh those tiny negatives.
i'm 22 and have a 11 month old little girl, i didn't realise she would be so demanding and it can be hard work some days when she's having a bad day, but for me the joy of looking after her and being her mummy is so rewarding i love it and possibly plan to have another baby within 1 year.
I always said I did not want children, and I was not even sure that I wanted to marry, and now I am 33 and married and had 2 girls in 14 months and I just love it! It does not feel like work. I use to be a very lazy person where it comes to house work, but now I do it because I do not want my children to grow up in chaos and I don't even think of it as work - it's just something that has to be done.
I was thinking it was gonna be so fun and it is........sometimes. But most of the time its about making sure they are fed, cleaned, happy, learning. You have to worry about what ur doing right and wrong and it full of u feeling guilty cause your child might not be socialized or u were tired one day and just wanted to relax then felt bad cause your kid was bored. There is absolutly no sleep and very lil time with ur husband or ur self. It took about a year for me to adjust and now I can't think of living my life any other way. My life before was so boring now that I look back, I did nothing and my hubby and I just watched moviesd everynight. Now we love getting the chance to go out or stay home with eachother and it gives us something to talk about. Being a parent can be frustrating but so worth it.
It's like a job you love :) For me, I only decided to have kids because my husband really wanted them. He's a wonderful man and wouldn't marry a woman who wouldn't have kids so I knew from the beginning we were having kids. well, we waited a while...5 years after marriage and we had our first and now we're on our second. It really felt like just work, no joy at first, but it gets more joyful for me over time. My 2 year old is my little sunshine and makes me laugh every day!
Parenting has been an absolute joy for me,I simply wouldn't trade it for the world.











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Depends on the mood of my kids that day :P...but its mostly a joy..





Honestly before I got pregnant with my first one I never watned kids, she was a huge surprise but I wouldn't trade her for anything.