At what point do your parenting opinions matter more than your partners?

i mean, i see people on here ALL the time complaining about how their significant other parents in a way that is unacceptable to them. well, you decided to have kids with them and the kids ARE half theirs....so why does your opinion matter more than theirs?





its like something so stupid as to argue over a movie your SO lets your kids watch. if they're not being hurt, they're fed, and they're content then what is the big deal?





what im getting at is, if you chose to have kids with someone knowing the kids are half theirs....why does your opinion matter more?At what point do your parenting opinions matter more than your partners?
In some ways.. that's why I'm glad Bruce and I dont talk.. God only knows what he'd do to my poor child.At what point do your parenting opinions matter more than your partners?
it's the same as any dispute between spouses that affects them both ... what to do when one gets the job offer that requires both to move, whether to save money or buy the bigger house, whatever. nobody's opinion matters more, and if the marriage is going to survive couples need to have a way to resolve the many things that are going to come up where they don't agree.








i'll make an exception where one parent is abusive or neglectful, in which case the opinion of the parent who is not those things *does* matter more.
Sometimes fathers aren't as informed about babies as the mothers are, they may think some things are okay when they aren't. Or they may even think some things are not okay when they are, which is usually the case with my partner and I. He has had no experience with babies in his life so he often thinks she is more fragile than she actually is. I think when one parent gets angry because the other one is doing something differently to how they do it that is wrong. As long as the child is not being harmed in anyway they should just be left to do things how they want.
In my household we agree with eachother on most things dealing with stuff like this, however they are not his children, though he raises them like his own. My opinion does count a little more towards the kids than his does in some situations, but he understands why i feel that way about certain things and agrees with me.
I agree in a way. But my Daughter's father is SO laid back w/ parenting that I have to make most of the decisions. And he kind of goes w/ the flo. I ask him what he 'thinks' all the time and he always says he doesn't care, just go with what I want! It's frustrating sometimes actually, sometimes I wish he would put up a fight.
When it goes against my beliefs is when I will fight.





My husband and I wanted a 2nd child but he believed in circumcision and I did not. I refused to have another child if he thought it would be circumcised if it was a boy. I made a ';book of info'; for him and after reading it he saw my point of view and our son is now almost 2.5





I have the final say on carseats...he has NO say...he knows nothing and I research them to death.





We will never spank our children. I dont agree with it and god help anyone that ever touched them...i would kill them.... THis was discussed prior to us ever getting engaged.
i dont outrank my husband nor does he me. we are both parents to our children and we both have an equal say. it really is compromise and discussion. luckily in terms of the kids, we had most of those discussions before we ever had kids so at this point we are on the same page.
Its never more important. We are both the parents, if we divide on somthing, I think it would show a poor example to the kids, I respect my signifigant other, and trust him to do his best.
My husband spends more time away than he spends here. We both hate it, but I know the kids better. Unfortunately, it means that I do all the work, all the time, even when he's here.
Very true. My opinion doesn't matter *more* than my husbands, but I will say that we've both made stupid minor mistakes and we've called each other out of it.


Overall, I value his opinion, though. :)
when safety is an issue.


when you know more about the situation.
You have to give respect, to earn it.
I completely agree with you. My boyfriend and I are 50/50 on parenting decisions. Whenever a new challenge presents itself we talk about it and come to a decision we're both happy with. Same goes with if one of us are doing something the other doesn't like. We talk about it and try to come up with a reasonable compromise so we are both happy.


He gets me to do all the research though lol
I am biased, but I feel I carried my baby for 10 mons, I labored her, therefore, in some ways, she's ';more mine'. I know that sounds horrid, but that's my feelings, and you asked. It's not that my opinion matters ';more';, it's that I feel I know deep down when something isn't right or healthy for my baby, kind of like ';mother's intuition'; which my bf a guy obviously doesn't have.


For example, my bf sometimes blasts ';the terminator'; when he's watching the baby and I'm cleaning up or something, and I get mad and tell him to turn it off---b/c I don't think a loud, obnoxious movie with guns and violence could be good for my daughter's development, or her hearing.


My mom had this issue with my dad well---he used to let me watch ';The Poltergeist'; at age 6, and my mom would always get mad about it. Well my mom had a right to bc that movie started giving me nightmares lol.


You're a single mom from what I know, so in some ways you're lucky you don't have to deal with this or ';share'; parenting methods, but if you weren't, you'd probably be correcting your SO on things too that concern your son.