Well, to me it is to have fun. Enjoy every moment and cherish it. Don't be afraid to get messy with the food, splash water all over or whatever...it is all a learning experience for them. Don't be too tough on them but don't be too leniant either. Instill a sense of self worth and confidence. Good luck!What is the most important thing to remember about parenting?
Yes and life is much too short to be worried about the small stuff. =)
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The most importnat thing to do is to make your child feel loved. That is the #1 thing to do to make you a good parent!
give as much love as you can and enjoy your little one b/c she's growing everyday and sooner than you think she'll be a lady
dont be overprotective, let her do things and dont limit her life. like if she wants to go to the movies with a friend, dont stop her because u think something bad could happen while she is at the movie.
That they are only small like this one time so take it all in and let the little things that get you upset go. Love them to your full capacity and cherish their presence.
Patience and love are very important. Spend as much time as you can with your baby. Remember, this time will never come back in your life or hers. You may have other babies but this baby will never be 8 months old again. But sometimes tough parenting may be needed as well. Do not give in to her every demand. Sometime you have to let her cry it out.
She will give what she receives (as you sow, so shall you reap). So live, laugh and love a lot.
Patients!!!!!! Its not easy being a parent.Patients is the main thing i think.And always tell your kids u love em! My parents never told me and never hugged me.My kids get hugs and told i love u constantly and they seem alot more confident and able to talk to me about stuff.Good Luck!
You have gotten great answers. Another thing I can add is...accidents are not to get yelled at. Your child is going to do a million of them and there is nothing sadder then a child that cowers when they split something. I have gone threw a flooded kitchen, broken glasses, pulled flowers and alot of other things and even though you want to scream...don't. Laugh it off and think how great the story will be when you tell it at their wedding!
be consistent, kids realize when you give in or constantly change the rules...they need rules and consequences, and need to know you'll stick with it
For me, its give and take! I guide them in what i believe to be the right direction at the same time allowing them to become who they need to be. As long as you set the right foundation and the ground rules for them, you should be okay. And, allow yourself as a parent to receive information-even if they are not direct!!! Kids usually tell or ask for exactly what they need - the key is to listen carefully!!!
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Ayana
Love!
And remember who's the parent and who's the child.
Best wishes to ya!
being calm for sure,lol. make everything fun. they wont want to learn if it isn't fun, they wont want to do anything if it isn't fun. they are kids, not even adults want to do things that aren't fun.
To remember who's the parent and who's the child. Don't give them everything they want. And please SPEND lot's of time with them. And since it's a girl make sure she's comfortable tlking to you about ANYTHING. You want to be the first to know everything.
Pay attention to your child, each child that you have. Don't pay attention to what other people say, what other people's kids do, what the book says, etc.
I am not saying you should never seek advice or listen to anyone else, but you really need to do what works for you, your child and your family. If what you are doing is working, then it's working. If it's not then change. But lets say the ';book'; says your baby should eat X amount Y times a day. If *your* child is growing well and is healthy (bright eyed, good skin tone, good hair, not sickly) and then your child is getting enough. It doesn't matter what the book says.
And if little the neighbour's baby sleeps through the night, and yours doesn't, and it doesn't bother you, make your cranky etc. Then who cares if your baby sleeps through the night or not. There is no evidence sleeping through is any healthier for your child. There is evidence sleeping through too soon is a SIDS risk.
Education yourself as much as possible. There are a lot of important decisions to be made, like what to feed your baby, when to start solids, vaccination, daycare of not (if it's a choice for you), etc. The information changes constantly but if you make the best decision based on the best information you have then you are doing the best you can for your child. If you make decisions based on what your mom says, or what ONE doctor says, or one baby book or what ';everyone says is right'; then I think even if you do make the ';right'; choice you are not making the best choice.
Never borrow trouble. Just because something *may* cause a problem in the future, don't not do it today. If you have a problem today use what works TODAY, if it becomes a problem tomorrow, deal with it tomorrow. For example thumbsucking, if it works today let it be. Yes some children have a hard time stopping thumb sucking. On the other hand you don't really hear about the ones that stopped young with no problem. My son only sucked his thumb till his top teeth came it *lol*.
And ALWAYS trust your instincts, if you think something is wrong, keep fighting until you find an answer! And try to love and cherish each moment, then again don't feel bad if you take time out to read, or goof off online ;-)
Remeber this and repeat it to yourself often: This too shall pass.
When you are up rocking her all night because she won't sleep, remember, this too shall pass.
When she has her first ear infection and you are shelling out 75 dollars for antibiotics, remember, this too shall pass.
When she ruins any attempt you have at a family fun day or some mommy relaxation time remember, this too shall pass.
Also? Dont' forget to laugh. It's crucial.
best,
DN
The most important thing in being a parent is to be consistent. Children get confused by moody parents who don't make rules and stick to them. Right now though, I think the most important thing is to be loving and caring and patient. I have always heard that you can't spoil a baby.
No matter what your gonna love them. Dont sweat the small stuff, pick your battles. And lots and lots of patience.
Remember in the future that kids are people, too. They hurt, they laugh, they cry, they feel joy, sadness, pain and confusion. Use empathy in every situation, and you will be a good parent.
Patience is REALLY important
Remember that she's only on loan to you, that she will some day be an independent adult whose most important teacher was you.
Lots of love %26amp; luck to you.
from a mom of 3, grammy of 2
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