Is parenting really all about disciplining your kids and nothing more?

Can parents not have a good relationship with their children WHILE they're still children and raise/discipline them at the same time? I'm not saying parents should be their kids' friends instead, but does raising children until they're adults also mean you're not supposed to worry about having a good relationship with them until they're adults?





I'm not asking this question to try to be judgmental or anything. Just to try to understand something.Is parenting really all about disciplining your kids and nothing more?
Discipline is such a small part of parenting. You only need to use discipline if the child has crossed set boundaries - which shouldn't happen all the time.





Parenting is about loving and nurturing your child, spending time with them, educating them, fostering their self-esteem, having fun together, providing a stable home, teaching morals and boundaries and so much more than just discipline! You can have a great relationship with your children and still discipline them when necessary, it's not an either/or thing.Is parenting really all about disciplining your kids and nothing more?
No, parenting is about loving and caring for your children and teaching them right from wrong and how to survive in the modern world.





Parents always have a good relationship with their children as long as they are being good parents (barring teenage years, those hormones are unpredictable), discipline is part of the package and although it upsets and angers them, in the end you need to make sure they know it was for their own good.
I'm a father of 17 kids, and yes there is much more to parenting then just disciplining them. If you raise them right you do not have to discipline them all the time, it won't happen often. You raise them to be the best that they can be. You love them with all your heart, and care for them even when they all become adults like mine have. Their great kids, 8 of them are truly mine and the other 9 are my brother's. We adopted them at a very young age due to a horrible accident.


We did all kind of things when they were growing up. Discipline wasn't often what so ever. Because they all knew that my wife and I meant business and we wasn't fooling around when we said ';no'; or ';stop';, they just knew it was wrong and they didn't do it again. We were extremely lucky that way. Now my wife and I are 49 years old and our kids come here with their spouses and kids and we still have fun and do the things we did when they were growing up with the grandchildren now.


So much more the discipline for sure!
I thnk its a fine line. You want a good relationship, but you need firm (consistent) boundaries. My approach has always been this: Im really laid back about setting rules, lots of freedom given, Im easy to approach, I try to be the ';cool'; mom......but the flipside is that for the rules I DO have I'm super strict and super consistent. The kids don't feel like its rule after rule after rule, but they know better than to try me when I DO say something
No, definately not. A good parent can be loving and caring, yet still be able to set boundaries.


If your child gets a bad grade or something and they tried hard, they should be able to tell you without fearing that you will yell at them or something.


Parents can be fun to be around, they can tell you nice stories and try to help solve your problems.
I have a great relationship with my children and I still discipline my children and they know I am the parent...that don't doesn't mean you have to be their best friend but you can still be a friend and a discipline them and be a good parent..
You can have a good relationship with your kid and still be the parent. You just need to explain to your child that you do or say things for a reason which is to show them right from wrong not to be mean to them.
No, there needs to be a balance. That's what many ppl do not understand today. They are either too strict or they are too mellow. What happened to the authoritatve style? Does that not exist anymore?
No, it's about loving your kids.


It also is about teaching your kids moral values,


and yes, sadly, punishing them when they


disobey.
Parenting has virtually nothing to do with discipline. Discipline and punishment plays very minor roles in parenting.