How do I handle differences in parenting among my fiance and I when it comes to our children?

He has two girls and I have two boys and it just seems like he doesn't include me and my boys enough. Like, it's all about his youngest daughter. If I ask him for something he delays it, or doesn't do it, or just claims to forget. But when it comes to doing something having to do with her he's on it. Most of the time if I ask him to do something for me it has to do with the boys. What's up with that? Should I plan to stick it out or abort the mission?How do I handle differences in parenting among my fiance and I when it comes to our children?
You can sit him down and talk to him but my bet is that he is NOT going to change. Do you think it's fair that he treats his child better than you and your children? Either they are all equal or kick him to the curb as you can do a LOT better.How do I handle differences in parenting among my fiance and I when it comes to our children?
First of all it is good that you have found this behavior out before you're


married. You must sit down and communicate your concerns. If he


won't listen or accept then the two of you must seek professional


advice. If he won't cooperate then you need to make plans to find a


different partner. A marriage is a partnership, not a one-way set up.
Abort the mission. If your feelings dont matter now, a wedding band won't change it.
ABORT!





Your children are at risk!





No dikkkk is worth your kids being cheated of a real home!
Red flag, If you have any doubts about getting married then he is not the one for you.
nothing is going to change.
Tough situation! Obviously the most important thing in each of your lives are your children; as it should be. But when you decide to come together as one family there has to be an understanding on how to parent ALL of the kids together, not separately. You should be willing to treat his children as equals to your kids and he should be willing to do the same. If that's not the case than this can make for major problems down the line.





I have a similar situation; I have a son from a previous relationship and my husband has a son from a previous marriage. It's definitely tough to be fair and equal with both but we take it one day at a time and one issue at a time to make sure they don't feel like one is getting special treatment or being treated differently by us for any reason. Our kids are the most important thing in our lives but before we got married our pastor told us something that really helped us understand how important bringing 2 families together really is. He told us that when we commit our lives to each other in marriage, we become each others #1 and the love we have for each other is the BEST thing we can share with our children. Seeing their parents in a healthy %26amp; loving relationship is the best thing we can do for both of our kids. And part of that is agreeing to be parents to both children or sets of children in your case. At least in my case, my stepson has a mother who is involved in his life so he doesn't need a mom figure, I love him and treat him as my own and make sure he knows that I am there as a friend whenever he needs anything and my husband has done the same with my son. My son's dad isn't so much involved so my husband has stepped in and been there for him and been more of a father figure since he needs that. That's what our situation calls for...what about you? This is a big issue that needs to be dealt with BEFORE you get married. You need to put your kids best interest before yours at this point and do what is best for them. The unfair treatment from your fiance' can wreak havok on your relationship with your own children and from there it will put a strain on your marriage and that's the last thing you want to have happen. You definitely need to work on parenting issues with your fiance' and hopefully he will learn to be fair with all the kids in your life. If not, then at least you tried but should probably move on.